I was watching a news item yesterday, wherein ppl were surveying so many schools all over india to know abt the need for sexual education.
During this , they quoted this statistics.
53% of Indian children go through some kind of sexual abuse!!!
This water downs to the fact that every second child is sexually
abused! Isnt it startling and more so distressing??
My sister says distressing yes. but startlig no! she sayz open ur eyes meena! every bus ride is an abuse. Even trains are.
She reminded me of the incidence that we overlook as usual!
Like the way, when we used to walk on roads there r ppl who wud wantonly hit u and say sorry. In the train the hawkers wud be like (male) ‘Kaay ho madam, bheed hai ikde teekde laagnaarach.’ ‘ What madam its crowded. something will touch here and there’
Most saddest part wud be other women saying ‘ Itke natak asell tar jaayche na 1St class madye’ ‘ If u have so much problem y dont u travel in 1st class?’
Then i was wondering is it really that prevelant i remembered my ole wounds. It does happens very often the kids r so lost so innocent and they feel ashamed and never tell anyone until its gone too faar…..
There was this guy whose arguements touched some chord somewhere. He said ppl ask me why dint u tell?
how can a child tell?
do ppl give conducive environment? Do parents and teachers give that?
What abt understanding? Can a 7 yr boy understand whats happening to him?
Neednt he be informed?
I reflected back to realise was my family very open abt sex? They werent. But we had a book on Sex . It was explained so
simply. The best part was the preface……
The author said he asked a 10 year ole boy what he want to know abt sex?
The kid said everything! and thats what the author did. explained everything so that a simple 10 yr ole
boy can understand too……
I think i was around the same age when i read it. Thats when i understood abt babies and reproduction. I agree there was many stuff we dint understand then… we did later…
In the news item few teenage gals were quoted and u know what? I jived wid them.. i remember how obsessed we were abt ‘sex’. I remember sitting in a different room me renu parma n nilesh. We were buddies very close. We sat togather and devored
this book. IT was simple open curiosity.
but then after that.. we lost the childishness.. we had grownup some..
However, my point is we did it on the sly!
Our parents kept this book so hidden that ou curiosity was piqued. They wudnt even kiss in front of us as if it is a shameful act! forget kissing i have never seen them hug!
I wonder if my mother wud have been alive wud i have gone to her to confide?
possibly i wud. I have no way to know. but then such situation wudnt have occured…
My dad was always over proetective.. he wud never allow us to be alone wid anyone only if my mom is there else we wudnt be…
Now i wonder wasnt he right? if the figure is conservative as my sister says or not i think in hindsight my dad was right.. only it dint help
Imagine kids who r not so protected??
I think sexual education is must. infact there shud b discussions so that the kids can tell if they were abused. And only telling wudnt work! if the kid does say he/she shud see justice done!
Abt sex education…
Well most of us discuss anyways. some ppl for being cool embellishes some and others repeat it like a parrot. Isnt it better to have full knowledge than inadequate?
I think they better introduce sex education else this statistics may increase….
I used to wonder y i see so many ppl wid same stories! now i know y! Coz society is infected wid it!
Though i dont get why is it infected? why the fetish wid young boys and gals?
are all ppl so screwed up?
I wonder if i will get the reply if ever. I wonder if i am strong enuf to understand the reason …
I wud still say prevention is better than cure.. however hard it is.. children needs to know what it is. They need to understand when they r being abused!
Like i had read this item somewhere….
One uncle ‘family friend’ wud take the kid out for rides etc and then give her gifts….
after the child was used to it once the man wanted her to try the frock and come.. it became usual.. parents thought this man is generous n likes the kid…
then one day the man n the kid were alone and the man asked ger to change.. the kid was small and cant do it alone.. so this man helped her out.. and it is not required to tell what followed.. he dint do much than feel and sadly the kid liked it… all thru
her growing years they went a step ahead than this.. the gal never knew she was being used she thought this is how it is! never felt it was wrong until later!!
There is one time when kids were playing in park. there was this ole man who wud always come give them peppermints and make them play. no one thought he has such perverted thoughts… after all he was ‘thataa’… Well one fine day he said to the kids.. to grow up u need to use that ‘i dont know the exact word’ but the one wherein u do pullups….. and one of the child was ready to do it.. and while she was hanging there the ole man was busy jerking himself off looking at the kids panties! she wasnt aware!!
There r many such instances.. it makes me sick!