When I heard this as an excuse, I can’t say how blastedly angry I became! I spent the whole cab drive explaining him why this was wrong… I don’t think this made any difference to him ( my cab driver).
Well this is what happened.
We were in general talking about his family when he mentioned about a sister who got married after std 12th. When asked he said that the groom’s family planned to educate her but they had kids and that was it.
Over time, he revealed that his younger sister too is sitting at home ( waiting to be married) after 12th std. The reason being his parents are afraid of her well being, since they live in a conservative and very provincial small town.
When asked why he wouldn’t bring her to bangalore to educate her, he says, he is afraid or familial tension between her and his wife! Also, they never go against their parents as his parents wouldn’t want their daughter away from them.
Furthermore, I asked what he would do, if ever, his sister gets married and for some reason loses her husband? Would he be able to take care of her on his meager pay ( he already has 2 kids and planning a next one), he agrees it won’t be possible. He agrees that what I say makes sense ( that his sister must be self sufficient) however, he is not willing to convince to his parents!
The talk ended with this excuse!
How insufferably evasive!